Joe,
You have asked many questions, and it will take a while to work through all of them. As I suspected, your air system is more complicated than the ones found on earlier model coaches. It will take some time for everyone to figure it out.
I can answer some of your "easy" questions.
You should not have to dump your air bags to relieve pressure on the air system. There are check valves in the 6-pack manifolds that will hold whatever pressure you have in the air bags, even if you drain all the air tanks. Just level the coach however you want it, and use the water drain valves to release air from the tanks. The coach should remain level. If it does not, that is another problem.
Regarding the gray rings on both ends of the 2nd check valve. They look like "push to connect" air fittings. To disconnect the air line, push the gray ring in toward the check valve, and at the same time push the air line in slightly. Then, still holding pressure on the gray ring, pull the air line out of the fitting. There are little steel teeth inside the fitting gripping the nylon hose - pushing the gray ring in releases their hold on the hose.
Kinda like a Chinese finger trap.
Next, about the water separator. You are correct - if main air system pressure is getting past the check valves, and reaching the relief valve, then it should be escaping through the (NO) normally open solenoid valve #1. That is, unless the water separator is full of trash, and the valve at the bottom of the clear bowl is plugged up. In the second photo you posted, it looks like there is some white "stuff" in the bottom of the clear bowl. It is not unusual to have problems with that NO solenoid valve.
If it was my coach, I would remove all the valves on/around the aux compressor, and check them all out. Once you know they are all clean and operating properly, then you can see if the original problem still exists, and go from there.
I'm still trying to puzzle out all the different pressure relief values. They do seem to be confusing. The fact that the relief valve is "adjustable" is always a source of possible trouble. Anything that can be adjusted, may have been adjusted by persons who didn't know what they were doing.
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