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Re: My Patricia Has Died

Reply #50 – October 13, 2021, 03:18:11 pm

John,

My most sincere condolences.  It's been 21 years since I lost my Mary Jo at age 38 so I know what you are feeling.  Despite what people say you will not "Get over it" but your life will enter a new phase.  You will never forget Pat but each day will get a little better.
Our prayers are with you.

Keith & Joyce

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Re: My Patricia Has Died

Reply #51 – October 13, 2021, 09:38:56 pm

John
Like others on this FT forum I urge you to stay close to God in this season.  Pat's time here left a lasting mark on you and others who knew her. She is irreplaceable, but never forgotten.  You'll think of her often and many emotions will flood you for a while.  But don't lose heart, God is near.  He shows up in the kindness of folks around you or in a word that reminds you of Pat.  I offer little but my prayers for you and your family.  From Northern CA:

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Re: My Patricia Has Died

Reply #52 – October 14, 2021, 05:07:34 am

I am so sorry for your loss. It is terrible to watch your spouse suffer and to lose one is devastating.  I will keep you in my prayers for comfort and peace.

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Re: My Patricia Has Died

Reply #53 – October 14, 2021, 07:42:36 am

Very sorry for your loss. Keep your faith in life and christ and even this time in life, will become easier to deal with. Our loved ones and their everlasting memories are never forgotten.

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Re: My Patricia Has Died

Reply #54 – October 14, 2021, 08:56:41 pm

So sorry for your loss. Can't begin to imagine the void you must feel.

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Re: My Patricia Has Died

Reply #55 – October 14, 2021, 09:13:22 pm

Reading this was so sad. I am terribly sorry for your loss. Hang in there and stay on the light side.

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Reply #56 – October 14, 2021, 09:55:08 pm

John, sorry for your loss. You and Pat will be in our prayers.

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Re: My Patricia Has Died

Reply #57 – October 17, 2021, 12:27:27 am

John,

I married late in life in my middle 30's, and we are approaching only 40 years of marriage.
I am 10 years older than Jeanne, and I am not sure I will make the 50th anniversary.

We had a house fire in November 2018, everything that was not in our guesthouse or barns was lost. It happened while I visited friends in Texas.
The insurance company blamed Jeanne for arson, and after I hired my own fire investigator and several lawyers and sued the company for breach of contract and emotional damages' the company caved in and offered a settlement significantly over my cost estimate.

Nearly three years later Jeanne is still suffering from a stress disorder of being accused to having planned a major felony crime, and I have to concentrate on helping and supporting her with her depression episodes.

We German Prussians are not really brought up to be sensitive and caring, but I am learning.

Why do I tell this to you and the community?

The story of you caring for your wife showed the material you are made off,  decent and honorable people live up to their commitments,

Next time I feel sorry for myself and get frustrated in some silly argument with Jeanne (and at our stage of life most arguments are silly), I will think of you and try to do better.

I am a confused Christian at best, and admire people who have peace with their belief in God.

In the meantime I go with Pascal's Wager.

My condolences for the loss of your wife.

Regards

Klaus

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