My Patricia Has Died

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My Patricia Has Died

October 10, 2021, 08:35:49 am

I know that only a few of you know me but I wanted to ask for help. Because of the outstanding character of our members I have been able to enjoy and learn so very much. Thank you to all the members that have answer my sometime dumb questions.
Vietnam was hard but caring for my wife of 54 years with pancreatic cancer was the hardest thing I have ever done. Last 5 days of her life she suffered so much pain it broke my heart. Thank you again and I hope I have not broke any rules. John M Seasly

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Reply #1 – October 10, 2021, 08:56:14 am

May God bless you both.
I don't know what else to say John.
Prayers out.

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Reply #2 – October 10, 2021, 09:04:07 am

So sorry for your loss.

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Reply #3 – October 10, 2021, 09:28:43 am

Unimaginable loss. It pains everyone to hear of your loss.
Scott and KIm

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Reply #4 – October 10, 2021, 09:31:53 am

Sorry for your loss, Gods speed.

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Reply #5 – October 10, 2021, 09:46:11 am

Quote from: John/Pat – October 10, 2021, 08:35:49 am

I know that only a few of you know me but I wanted to ask for help.

Tell us what we can do to help you.

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Reply #6 – October 10, 2021, 10:02:01 am

John, I will pray that GOD will give you peace and grace to continue on until your times comes, always remembering her and what she would want you to do without her.

Praying,
Pat,

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Reply #7 – October 10, 2021, 10:04:10 am

John,
I give thanks for the 54 years you shared with Patricia and pray the memories of the good times will soon temper the pain of today.
Herb and Willie

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Reply #8 – October 10, 2021, 10:09:39 am

Very Sorry for your loss

Hans&Marjet

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Reply #9 – October 10, 2021, 10:20:45 am

John, cancer is a mean, nasty disease that steals those we love and cherish away from us.
Nothing, and I do mean nothing can erase the pain you are going thru.
What will help is for you to concentrate on all the good times and memories you created with Patricia.
God gave both of you a gift when He brought you together. 54 years!! How many other couples can attest to that amount of bliss?
My DW and I celebrated 58 years this last September 20th, and every day I thank God for her.
Do the same for your Patricia and He will ease your pain.

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Reply #10 – October 10, 2021, 10:41:36 am

These difficult days will always be there but 54 years of everything else will wash over them in time and your memories will be mostly of all of the good times and things you shared. They are and will be the foundation of undying love and memories going forward. Patricia will always be with you, just a thought away. Thank you for your loving care.

Roger and Susan

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Reply #11 – October 10, 2021, 10:50:10 am

John our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Cancer sucks!

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Reply #12 – October 10, 2021, 10:55:51 am

So very, very sorry to hear this sad news. It is a something that most of us think about ... and mentally try out the idea of having to live without our beloved friend, because we know it is coming ... but the reality is so much more devastating than we are ever able to imagine. Dealing with grief that immense is like trying to stay upright in the ocean. We are able to maintain for certain periods, but when the big waves come we can only duck under and let them wash over us. You have to go through them to have a hope of regaining your feet and gasping more air.

In my mind, the only way to manage that hole in your heart is to embroider the edges with memories, to keep it from growing larger. You are her witness that there was a life well lived ... not by a saint, but a real, perfectly imperfect human being who was loved and is missed, and left this world a little bit better place. That is a legacy that all of us can aspire to!

Be well, friend ... you can do this.

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Reply #13 – October 10, 2021, 11:28:46 am

Sorry for your loss
Peter and Freida

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Reply #14 – October 10, 2021, 11:53:52 am

Sorry for your loss, prayers.

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Reply #15 – October 10, 2021, 01:15:28 pm

We are so sorry for your loss. There are no words that can take away your grief, but hold on to the knowledge that no one is truly gone so long as you hold that person in your heart. Hold on to the memory of your Patricia now and her love will sustain you as it has the last 54 years. May God bless both of you. You are in our prayers.

Dave and Kathy Bennett

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Reply #16 – October 10, 2021, 01:45:24 pm

So sorry for your loss. You and Patricia must have collected so many memories together. What a gift, let the tears come but hold tight to those memories. In the end, its the one treasure that really matters.

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Reply #17 – October 10, 2021, 02:10:28 pm

As others have said, so very sorry for your loss. Nothing is worse than the loss of a child or life partner.

Pierce and Gaylie

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Reply #18 – October 10, 2021, 02:15:14 pm

Steve and I are so very sorry for your loss... May you find comfort in knowing she is no longer suffering and know her spirit and your memories live on in your heart...

If there is something the Forum can do to help, please reach out to us.

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Reply #19 – October 10, 2021, 02:28:34 pm

Sorry for your loss you are in my prayers I we'll pray

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Reply #20 – October 10, 2021, 03:12:38 pm

John,
In this difficult time.......... know that we and your Fore Forum family have you in our thoughts and prayers.

Justin & Cathy

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Reply #21 – October 10, 2021, 03:15:46 pm

Sorry for your loss

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Reply #22 – October 10, 2021, 03:37:45 pm

As mere mortals, We are more often quite unprepared for these life changing events.

In the gospel of John, Jesus says:
"My father's house has many rooms."
Those who are grieving may be comforted knowing that their loved one lives in these rooms with Jesus and that there's a room prepared for them.

Death is not a final goodbye, But an "until we meet again" Lean on the lord and lean on your family and friends. They are here to help in your time of need.

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